Research shows that women benefit from making the first move on dating apps. But when someone's online dating profile catches your eye, there can be a lot of pressure on that first message. How do you stand out from the other potential dates filling their inbox? And how do you make sure the conversation goes somewhere, rather than fizzling out?
We got people who found love online to spill on the greeting that started it all. Here are some online dating exchanges that happy couples now reminisce on:
"Have you ever tried soup dumplings?" "We met on OkCupid. I sent the first message. It went something along the lines of: 'I could compliment your awesome taste in TV and movies, but what really caught my eye was your choice of food. Have you ever tried soup dumplings?' (OKC asks for your top food choices; one of his was 'recently tried Polish dumplings... who knew?!') He had not tried them, so we planned our date around that. And to this day, whenever I pass a dumpling spot, I end up grinning like an idiot." —Lindsay, 27
"What kind of music videos do you work on?" "I initiated. It was very brief—something to the tune of 'Hi, you look like a lovely sort of person. What kind of music videos do you work on?' He responded promptly and positively, sent me a link to some recent work, commented on a picture of me on my profile with George Saunders, and asked me about my recent move and my creative work." —Chrissy, 26
"You used to work at that cafe, right?" "I used to work at a cafe, where I was a barista and my now-husband was a regular customer. I always thought he didn't like me. He hadn't been into the cafe in a while, and I got an OkCupid message from him that said, 'Hey, I hope this isn't weird, but you used to work at [name of cafe], right?' Turns out he was just super shy and actually always thought I was cute." —Sarah, 33
Read full article here: http://www.glamour.com/story/best-online-dating-messages
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We got people who found love online to spill on the greeting that started it all. Here are some online dating exchanges that happy couples now reminisce on:
"Have you ever tried soup dumplings?" "We met on OkCupid. I sent the first message. It went something along the lines of: 'I could compliment your awesome taste in TV and movies, but what really caught my eye was your choice of food. Have you ever tried soup dumplings?' (OKC asks for your top food choices; one of his was 'recently tried Polish dumplings... who knew?!') He had not tried them, so we planned our date around that. And to this day, whenever I pass a dumpling spot, I end up grinning like an idiot." —Lindsay, 27
"What kind of music videos do you work on?" "I initiated. It was very brief—something to the tune of 'Hi, you look like a lovely sort of person. What kind of music videos do you work on?' He responded promptly and positively, sent me a link to some recent work, commented on a picture of me on my profile with George Saunders, and asked me about my recent move and my creative work." —Chrissy, 26
"You used to work at that cafe, right?" "I used to work at a cafe, where I was a barista and my now-husband was a regular customer. I always thought he didn't like me. He hadn't been into the cafe in a while, and I got an OkCupid message from him that said, 'Hey, I hope this isn't weird, but you used to work at [name of cafe], right?' Turns out he was just super shy and actually always thought I was cute." —Sarah, 33
Read full article here: http://www.glamour.com/story/best-online-dating-messages
Related article: On Leadership: to thrive emphatically